I talked yesterday about conditioning ourselves to say no to activities and commitments outside of our homes that negatively affect our families.

Today, we need to working on saying YES.

Somewhere in my parenting journey, the word NO became the most used part of my vocabulary. It became my default answer when the boys asked to do something. And most of the time I had no real reason to say no to what they were asking.

I should say I had no GOOD reason to say no. I would make excuses to the boys about why we couldn’t do such-and-such, but I was really just masking my laziness or selfishness.

I am not advocating for our children to get everything they want, but rather for us as parents to get out of any auto-parenting mode that may have us saying no to anything our children suggest that is time-consuming, difficult, silly, or out of the norm!

My blogging friend {and MOB Society writer} Jessica from Bohemian Bowmans was a major reason I realized just how much I say no to my children. She wrote about this very topic earlier this year and even started a link-up to help motivate parents to say YES more often to the things their children ask them to do.

I needed this wake-up call desperately. I’m pretty sure I have sounded like the meanest mom in the world, saying no to countless requests from my children each day…

Can we play this game?

Can I show you what I built?

Can we have a movie night?

None of these things would kill me if I said yes! In fact, they all sound pretty fun when I write them down here! In the moment, however, I am usually convinced these requests are getting in the way of what NEEDS to be done or what I NEED to do.

And in the moment, I am also usually wrong.

I NEED to say yes more. I NEED to enjoy the things my children want to share and do with me. And as I sit here writing this, I also realize I WANT to say yes more!

Yes just might be the most meaningful word I say to my children today.


Family tie #3: Say yes to your children as much as possible today! Keep a “yes” list and share some of your favorites here later today! And ENJOY the blessing of relationship-building with your children that comes from each yes!


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