I want our children to see The Hubby and I as more than just parents.
The Hubby is obviously more than the father of my children to me, but do the kids know this? Do they see us interact in ways other than our parenting roles?
Our children need to see the other aspects of our relationship in order to give them a healthy picture of marriage!
So what do I want them to see?
We were best friends first and we still are.
We really enjoy doing things together. The boys know we love watching football and movies.
We tell each other everything. We have our own conversations about things other than parenting when the children are around.
We willingly do things for one another just because. The Hubby has an especially great heart for blessing me with acts of kindness.
We are lovers, and while this may seem “yucky” to the kids, it is good for them to know I care for The Hubby beyond just friendship!
This is one I need to work on. When The Hubby gets home, I am usually busy doing something and don’t stop long enough to physically greet him. I DO have the time to stop what I’m doing, even if briefly, and properly say hello with a kiss and a hug! And it shouldn’t just be when one of us gets home. We can cuddle on the couch during family movie night or give a little kiss anytime during the day!
It’s ok for our boys to see us kiss! In fact, it’s wonderful! Sure, they may say, “Eww!” at the time, but they need to see healthy physical expressions of love within the context of marriage and will appreciate this model later in life!
I’m sure The Hubby is reading this right now and thinking, “Oh yeah, baby! Can’t wait to come home so she can work on her new goal!” And it can’t wait either! Let’s show our kids how much we love one another!
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Family Tie #22: Kiss and hug your spouse more when the kids are around! Show them that you are more than just parents. Find ways to emphasize your friendship with one another to your children, whether it is doing more fun things together, having non-kid related conversations, or something else!
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loved this post. The other day my husband and I were hugging and our 25 month old kept yelling NOOOOOOOOO!!!! at us.
But the next morning, he took a piece of paper and a pen…scribbled, and said “Draw mommy hug daddy!”
Apparently, we made an impression!
I’m on my way home!!
Great post! I totally agree, I want my boys to know that it’s completely naturally, normal, and beautiful to show loving affection to your husband or wife. If they don’t see their father and I do that, then how will they know?
We attended a wedding recently where everyone played the game where we tinkled the glasses with our forks the bride and groom would have to kiss, well my kids thought this was hilarious and started doing it to us at home! At first I was like “oh jeez, when is this gonna end” but now I’m kinda thinking this might be a good thing!
Enjoy all your extra in-home PDA’s 😉
I’m not sure how it started (and I just realized that it’s kind of waned now) but when my oldest daughter sees my husband and I kiss she’ll say “I see you!”. It always makes me think of that scene in “Meet the Parents” when he (Dinero?) points to his eyes with his fingers then at Ben Stiller saying, “I’m watching you!”
Great post! A couple months ago I went to pick Molly up from a friend’s birthday party, she and the birthday boy were on the couch watching a movie, and in their cute 5 year old way, he had his arm around her. I thought is was cute and it wasn’t inappropriate in any way, and I thought to myself, I bet he sees his dad do that with his mom. Melted my heart.