On Having Another Boy

Just a few weeks ago, we found out we will be having our third boy around the end of February.

Amongst the congratulations, I have heard more than a few times, “You didn’t get your girl? Guess you’ll have to keep trying!”

Can I let you in on a little secret?

We weren’t “trying” for a girl.

We didn’t decide to have a third child so we could “get our girl” as many people have put it.

We wanted a third CHILD – whatever the Lord decided to bless us with.

And, when it came to the reveal, we both felt OVERJOYED to be having another boy!

Now, don’t read this as me thinking girls are horrible or that I never would have wanted a girl – having a girl would have been lovely! Raising boys is exhausting, confusing, and SO different from my life as a girl growing up.

But I would not trade these boys {and the one kicking away in my womb} for anything – raising godly men is an awesome responsibility and blessing.

One of the nicest messages I received in the middle of all the well wishes read something like this…

“Congrats on boy #3! God must know what a wonderful boy mom you are!”

Well, that message just made my year.

Big J was hoping for a little sister, but by the evening after we found out, he was celebrating the fact our house of boys would be growing.

I’ve heard lots of macho cries in the house since then…

“Why are we excited to have another boy?”

“Cause we’re THE BOYS!”

But I’ve also gotten a lot of this…

“Mommy, you can be our princess!”

I’ll take that any day.

And I’ll take another boy in the house any day, too.

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  1. How wonderful!! Congratulations on another boy!! If we have a third I would love another boy, too. That is so sweet they said you could be their princess! Brad asks me if I’m a princess when I wear dresses and skirts. ๐Ÿ™‚

  2. You have some precious boys in your home … I’m thankful for moms like you who are raising up a generation of men who will love the Lord wholeheartedly. That’s the kind of boy I pray my daughter will one day marry.

  3. Congratulations! What a blessing! It amazes me how people don’t always think before they speak. When expecting my 3rd child I was asked, by a complete stranger, if I had 2 boys or 2 girls at home. I said one of each. The reply, then why are you having more? Um, because we wanted more children! Children are a true blessing and they have taught me so much about God and faith. I pray your boys will continue to be that blessing to you.

  4. I don’t know how you try for a girl anyway…I’m excited for your third child! You are a good boy mom. ๐Ÿ˜€

  5. I have a house w/ 3 boys!!! I love it….completely!!!! We were more excited to know our last one was going to be a boy as well. I welcome to our wild & crazy little world of 3 boys!! ๐Ÿ™‚ More fun than you can imagine.

  6. As a fellow mom of 3 boys, I am SO EXCITED for you to have another son! What a WONDERFUL blessing! Your sons are blessed to have you as their mom!

  7. Congrats! This is wonderful news!

  8. Great post! Originally I wanted my baby (now 10 months old) to be a girl but man this baby boy is the love of my life and we hope God blesses us with another boy soon. A girl would be nice tooo but now I feel like I’ve got the boy thing down ๐Ÿ™‚

  9. Congratulations! We have 3 boys and it has been a wonderful, amazing (and exhausting, lol!) journey. When we became pregnant with our 4th, we heard all kinds of rude comments like “oh, you’re going to keep trying till you get your girl?” When we found out that our 4th was indeed a girl, we got comments like “oh, are you finally going to stop now?” Sometimes it would just be better if people didn’t say anything at all.

    But know that we here in the blogosphere are overjoyed for you and are wishing you and your beautiful family every happiness and blessing!

    Many blessings,

  10. Congratulations on another boy! At the risk of sounding redundant – I am super in awe of you raising your sweet little men for the glory of God! I can only pray that I have done just half as well as you with my 2 boys!! xo

  11. You are very tactful and very kind Miss Erin. I know what kind of comments you must be getting (I’m one of three girls) and they are thoughtless at best and downright rude in some cases.

    Love your attitude. ๐Ÿ™‚

  12. Maria Ensey says:

    So well said!! I feel like I have found a kindred spirit when it comes to being a boy mom!! I am 12 weeks along and we also have 2 boys (6 & 9) this was a suprise pregnancy and it was not a “going for the girl” thing either as many assume!! I tell my hubby “Im a proud boy mom and I would like to stay that way!!” and our boys pray every night that they will have another brother and not a sister! lol!! So thankful for you and your testimony as a boy mom!! flex your muscles and be proud and thankful !! (as i know you are!!). Thanks for sharing!!

  13. You’re absolutely right, Erin. Either gender is a great blessing! We’re expecting our third girl in late January. =)

  14. I am thankful every day that God gave me boys. lol

    Congrats! ๐Ÿ™‚

  15. A blessing is a blessing no matter whether pink or blue….I have 3 boys and 1 girl….AND God knew what he was doing by giving us only 1 girl lol. Boy Mom’s Rule ๐Ÿ™‚

  16. I’m on the opposite side of the road from you….I’ve got 3 girls! I’m like you, I wouldn’t trade them for anything in the world. Congratulations on your little one!

  17. Been there! I have FOUR boys! We weren’t trying for a girl either, but I admit i got sucked into thinking pink with our 3rd little guy. I wouldn’t trade my house of boys for anything. I love being the princess in my guys’ world! Congrats! Boys are wonderful (but I hear you on the exhausting!) Did I mention my fourr boys are 5 and under?? ๐Ÿ™‚

  18. Congrats on Boy #3! We’re expecting our second boy in January, and we couldn’t be more thrilled. This will be our last child, and we weren’t trying for one gender or the other. After 4 miscarriages, we were just excited to be bringing another child into the world. But, I do love the idea of being a mom to all boys! Love your blog!

  19. Mommy, you can be our princess!

    I LOVE THAT. What a wonderful mom you must be, to have boys who say such things. ๐Ÿ™‚


  20. Thank you so much for putting this out there. I pray that those who read it and have ever asked those ridiculous questions will take something away from this post.

    I am a mom of three, 2 boys and then a girl. We did stop after our girl, but it had nothing to do with the gender of the third child. I have a very serious medical condition that makes it life threatening for me to have another child. It’s very disheartening to receive these kinds of questions from people who don’t know what I’ve been through and how much work God has done in my heart since learning I couldn’t have another. If they only knew how difficult a path it’s been (that we actually wanted more), maybe they’d be more sensitive.

    Also, congratulations on your new addition!

  21. Yes, a celebration indeed!! I’d always assumed our third would be another boy. Hoped it too. And now that we have a girl and folks tell me the same thing, “Oh you finally got your girl,” I always correct them, “Yes, we’re surprised and still getting used to the idea.”

    Because each individual child is a unique and utterly fascinating creation – no matter what gender they are.

    Boy or girl, it’s a wonder. A gift. A miracle.

    So I’m so excited for you to foray deeper into the land of boy-dom. What a glorious wonder. Blessings on you all!

  22. Woohoo!! Make room for another Spiderman cape in the dress-up box!

    So excited for you all–all the fun boy stuff x3.

  23. I am expecting my third boy and I have gotten a lot of the same reaction. But I am beyond excited to have another boy! Thanks for putting my thoughts into words.